Is self-sabotage keeping you stuck? Start here…

We often think of self-sabotage as something to beat ourselves up about — those frustrating behaviours that pull us off track, keep us stuck, or make us feel like we’re standing in our own way.

But what if I told you that within your self-sabotaging patterns lies the key to understanding yourself — and the path to real healing?

One of the most common (and painful) forms of self-sabotage is this:
Going back to the people who broke you.
Whether it’s a friend, romantic partner, or even a family member — when you find yourself drawn back to someone who has hurt you, it’s not because you’re "weak”, there’s something deeper going on.

Very often, this pull is rooted in early childhood experiences — the relationships where love felt inconsistent, where you had to earn approval, or where safety and acceptance were unreliable. Your subconscious is searching for familiarity, even if that familiarity is painful.

Do you notice these patterns? Poor boundaries, excusing harmful behaviour, or prioritising others who continually let you down? I encourage you to gently explore it, and start by journaling on these questions:

➤ Where in my childhood did I feel unseen, unsafe, or not enough?
➤ When did I learn that other people’s needs mattered more than my own?

Here’s the truth: every time you choose someone who hurts you over protecting your own peace, you’re telling yourself — again — that your needs don’t matter as much.

But awareness is the first step to breaking that cycle.
You deserve better — not just from others, but from yourself.
Your healing starts the moment you decide to stop abandoning you.

I would love to help you develop the boundaries and the self-love to no longer sabotage your desires to live your best life. Contact me on 0726594055